Frequently Asked Questions

What does Side A/Side B/Side X/mean?

These are terms that originated in the Bridges Across the Divide discussion. They are shorthand terms for theological positions on sexuality and marriage. Please note there is disagreement and nuance within each of these positions. 

Side A – God blesses same-sex sexual relationships as equal to heterosexual relationships. 

Side B – Same-sex attraction is not a sin but marriage is defined as one man and one woman; sex is for this union alone. All people outside of this union are to remain celibate. 

Side X – Same-sex attraction is a sin and same-sex attracted people should pray for their orientation to change. 

If you hold to a traditional sexual ethic, why do you have a partner?

I do not believe the traditional sexual ethic or celibacy requires anyone to forsake intimate friendships, companionship, or love. Any two people can share life together and love one another without being married or sexually involved. 

Are you forcing celibacy on all LGBT+ people?

I can only speak to my own personal calling to celibacy. I don’t have any interest in forcing all LGBT+ people to become celibate just as I don’t have any interest in forcing all my non-Orthodox friends to become Orthodox. I believe we are all doing the best we can to come to the correct theological conclusions. I believe the grace of Christ is big enough to cover our intellectual failings. 

Is this blog a Side B apologetic?

No. I’m not devoting any writing here to defending the historic position on marriage and sex. I find myself within a traditional context, so I’m focused on how other LGBT+ folks within the same space make sense of their orientations, friendships, and relationship to God and each other. 

What is your theological stance on same-sex sexual relationships and same-sex marriage?

I am a member of the Eastern Orthodox Church and submit to its authority to teach dogma.  The Orthodox Church teaches that the Sacrament of Marriage is between one man and one woman; sex is reserved for that union alone.

I’ve been honest in my public writing that at this time, I don’t find the theological arguments for this position particularly compelling. However, I trust my Tradition to shape and guide my life in a way that is edifying to Christ. Some teachings will always be a mystery to me. 

What is your view of women in ministry?

I am a firm believer that the New Testament was radically egalitarian. While the Orthodox Church has no official dogma prohibiting women priests, they have only ordained men.  I support the revival of the ancient female diaconate and think the Eastern Orthodox Church should be open to ordaining women to the priesthood.